One of the questions we are often asked is: ‘How safe is online dating?’ and ‘How safe is Christian Connection?’ Fortunately the vast majority of our members never encounter a situation where their safety is under threat.
Our team works hard to keep you safe on our site. It's something we care deeply about. At the same time, you need to do your bit to look after yourself, your friends and for the wider Christian Connection community.
Just like crossing the road or meeting new people in any environment, including a Church or in the course of a job, it is usually very safe but it is necessary to take care and some precautions. If you take note of the warnings and advice on security, you should be fine.
It is rare to hear about any kind of violence or assault but most problems we hear about are:
Scammers, often described as Romance Scammers, are by far the most dangerous presence on Internet dating sites. Very simply, they are people both male and female who will try and build a relationship with you and then attempt to fraudulently obtain money from you.
Christian Connection works very hard to detect and remove scammers and are generally successful, but we also ask our members to be vigilant and to report anything they feel is suspicious.
The basic rule is NEVER EVER SEND MONEY TO SOMEONE YOU HAVEN'T MET IN PERSON - even if you feel you really know them - and speaking on the telephone or via messaging DOESN'T COUNT as actually meeting somebody! And even if you have met them - sending them money is a very bad idea.
Well, we're not going to tell you the exact details because we don’t want the scammers to know! But here's an insight:
It's worth noting that not all dating sites try to get rid of scammers: some don't have the facilities to detect and remove them; free sites don't necessarily have the resources; and some sites even like scammers because they are active on the site and therefore are good for business!
It's important to note that scammers change their story and tactics and are becoming smarter. Every person who has been scammed has bought into a believable story, so But here are some tell-tale signs to help you spot a scammer:
Scammer behaviour changes constantly and we do all we can to stay ahead of their advances. Remember to report anything suspicious to us such as profiles or messages you may receive. We've put reporting systems in place to make this easy for you. We will treat your communication with us confidentially. If you have any doubts or questions about scammers, please write to us. We will personally investigate every report.
If you think you've been contacted by a scammer:
The chances are, that if you are reading this far, you won’t get scammed – but do look out for your friends and if you see somebody suspicious on the site, report them to Christian Connection.
There are literally hundreds of sites and TV programmes about romance scams and their victims - here are a few to look at:
Whether chatting online or meeting in person, here are some things to think about.
Information like your home address, place of work even your Facebook details and so on are best kept to yourself until you feel absolutely secure about sharing them. If your email address contains your full name or your surname, you might wish to consider setting up another email account which does not include your full name.
Remember there may also be things you can say about yourself which may enable people to find you elsewhere on the internet, find out where you work or which Church you go to. Never put these types of things in your profile.
And just because somebody insists on giving you his or her details does not mean you have to reciprocate and give them yours. Be wary if they are too insistent about you doing this.
You are under no obligation to meet people in person. If you are not sure or it if doesn't feel right, don’t be intimidated into feeling you must meet them.
If you do decide to meet up and feel that the meeting is not going well or you are feeling uncomfortable, make your excuses and leave politely.
If anything seems peculiar at any time, ask a friend for guidance or advice before proceeding.
Listen to what your friends say, and if you need a second opinion, check with us at Christian Connection. We are here to help, and we may be able to give guidance with a particular situation or person. And if you meet with somebody who you feel may cause problems, we would like to know that as well.